A memoir about a 70-something widow navigating the world of 21st-century dating. In her nonfiction debut, Weissinger interweaves stories of her early life with tales of participating once again in the dating world, many years after her husband's death. She'd lost her spouse to esophageal cancer when she was 57, and her account in these pages details her search for someone else to invite into her life in her 70s. But on what terms, she wondered, and to what end? Was she looking for someone as just a buddy, as a more serious companion, or as a potential husband? These questions almost immediately seem coy, because as the narrative progresses, her search for romance become clear. Over the course of the book, the author tells of how she spent time on internet dating sites, such as Our Time and Zoosk, and relates stories from her experience that readers of any age who've also tackled the dating scene will find familiar. Interspersed among these accounts are reminiscences drawn from Weissinger's nondating life. She writes about her rocky relationship with one of her daughters; her experiences with her late husband, Matt, including some very moving passages about his final days; and her many activities later in life, from volunteering at animal shelters to working with medical organizations as a Spanish-language translator. However, the primary focus of the book remains the author's search for a new significant other in her life. The wry, upbeat humor of that search is the key attraction of the book. Throughout the narrative, Weissinger consistently portrays herself as a dogged optimist--someone who's always hoping and striving to see the best in people. This quality comes out in her nondating stories, too, and most clearly in several of her anecdotes about her adult children and her experiences in Latin America. However, the war stories from online dating carry the narrative. Weissinger is low-key and funny about the men that she encountered, including a guy with a tattoo that linked his eyebrows, "bearded Santa Claus types wearing John Deere caps and drinking beer," a "dude with obviously dyed, coal black Dracula-style hair" ("a black it had never been in his twenties," she gently adds), and "the one whose selfies made him look like a wanted criminal on FBI posters." These lighthearted misadventures are skillfully counterbalanced with emotionally revelatory passages about her time volunteering in the Dominican Republic. At first, she asked herself, "Hadn't I aged out of this kind of adventure?" But soon, she describes herself as feeling "stripped of superfluous trappings, in touch with the essence of what matters in life, close to my skin, and accepted into others' skins and lives." There are a few passages and threads along the way that feel a bit predictable, but her portraits of the many people she met on her journeys are rendered with contagious sympathy and energy, which makes for a confident, quality remembrance. A funny, touching, and ultimately uplifting story of a woman searching for love and purpose.
COPYRIGHT(2021) Kirkus Reviews, ALL RIGHTS RESERVED. (Online Review)